Thursday, May 19, 2016
To raise the children in perfect way is a weighty responsibility of the parents. Of course parents wants that their kid must be perfect in future in every field of life whether it is social, religious or about career. It is a sublime art to raise perfect kid. The teaching of parents affects a lot and leaves permanent effect on their personalities. Mother is a first teacher of the kids. A child comes in this world with a clear mind like a white paper. The first word which is written on this white paper is that word which his/her mother teaches to him/her. Here is a guide for Muslim mothers which will help you in raising a perfect Muslim child.
1. Consider yourself on duty all the time
Your kids are something special from Allah. And Allah Almighty expects that you be productive enough to worth in which gift. He wants that you make your young ones a perfect Muslim and also a constructive a part of your contemporary society. So feel that responsibility on your own shoulders, but don’t stress, although the duty is difficult but Allah has you. Prepare on your own mentally being on duty round the clock and one week a week. Motivate yourself for the upcoming troubles in bringing up your youngster.
2. Be friendly with children
Make an effort to establish a new relation connected with trust and also friend send. Develop frankness using your children. Often children hide their matters from parents beyond fear. Your frank behavior would encourage them to discuss about confusion or perhaps ideas they've already in their mind, just before acting on them. Especially children spend lots of time with new mother, so a sort and warm and friendly behavior of a mother may help them talk out their hearts.
3. Treat all of the in best way because favoritism is destructed
A few mothers make a major mistake in terms they mention their children by favoring the particular boys within the girls. This attitude might not be felt initially, but that sometimes occurs spontaneously. Throughout time, the particular attitude gets a deep-rooted along with serious matter. It might even develop right social issue which includes negative consequences around the girls together with on all the family. Often consumers are in behavior of treating children unequally. Especially with regards to gender, boys tend to be prioritized above girls. They are offered with additional resources as compared to girls. Or even sometimes intelligent or desirable child will get more consideration. This biased attitude can develop a great deal of inferior complexes along with issues as part of your child. Islam enjoys equality. Although men get more authorities now and again but it truly is written nowhere to help remedy children unequally. Actually our beloved Prophet Hazrat Mohammad (PBUH) loved his daughter too much.
4. Try to offer Prayer in front of your kids
Try to provide prayer after Adhaan calls. And try and compel your second half also, to provide prayer with mosque along with procession. Like this, when baby will discover his father heading for mosque 5 times each day, he will likely join his father to venture to mosque. Similarly your current daughter will observe you also.
5. Do recite Quran in front of your kids
If you would like your child becoming a good and also practicing Muslim, be a practicing Muslim in front of them. Quran recitation is important for some sort of Muslim to comprehend Deen. Should you make a relentless habit connected with reciting Quran, plus your child observes it, there isn't chance he/she wouldn’t show fascination with what you happen to be reading. But be careful, habits are usually developed from early age groups, so even your toddler don’t gets that which you are reciting, yet it’s acquiring imprinted within his memory space, for soon after implementation.
6. Make Supplication for your kids
In a Hadith it is said that:-
“There are three supplications that are answered – there being no doubt about it: the supplication of the oppressed, the supplication of the traveler and the supplication of the parent for his child.”
7. Fulfill their right desire but not wrong
It is your duty that you should fulfill the every right desire of your kid. But don not fill their wrong desire. Be conscious about the fair and unfair.
8. Do practical of that thing which you want that they should do
Be considered a practicing Muslim. You cannot expect your son or daughter to speak truth while you lie in front of him. Just how does your child speak in the polite tone while you shout at him?
children are extremely fast at taking on habits, so be very much careful in front of your young children, as they are much prone to do just what you carry out. Do replicate acts in order to develop it in that person as some sort of habit, like doing zikar, reciting durood. Say BIS MI ALLAH repeatedly if you start virtually any task.
These tips will definitely provide you a guide to raise a perfect Muslim Child. Understand your responsibility and make yourself a perfect mother.
Fashion as we identify today means to wear classy, stylish and trendy clothes, or we can say wearing branded and expensive clothes. Fashion is not only restricted to clothes, but before using or buying anything like shoes, cosmetics, purse,furniture, television, mobile, computer etc., we first check whether it is in fashion or out of fashion.
According to Oxford Dictionary, the word ‘fashion’ means ‘manner or way of doing something’. Actually there is no such thing as "out of fashion" because fashion is only a means of one’s expression.
In every individual, a unique expression of his/her style, personality and character are being reflected. Therefore, fashion is an appearance and a sort of means to communicate. However, fashion is always unique and distinctive to one and all.
First of all there is a need to redefine the term ‘fashion’. Fashion is not restricted to any single area of life i.e. costume or appearance but it has a very wide range in almost every field of life like architecture, fine art, dance, style of communication, commercial trends, management, politics, medical etc. So, we can easily say that fashion is social.
Fashion in real meaning is not to wear trendy, expensive and attractive clothes. Instead Fashion is a style, it is a make. It is an appearance. So, whatsoever one is wearing must suit him/her. Frankly fashion is not to wear what others wear. It is not to copy others.
However do we ever look with Islamic point of view before following or adapting any type of fashion, specially the dress code. An important aspect of religion that must be observed is the Islamic code of clothing for both men and women. The appearance is a symbol of what one has in his/her heart.
Sadly today’s modern society is madly and blindly running behind fashion. In fact, we can see there has been introduced and injected vulgarity in our society in the name of fashion and style.
The unique Islamic code of dress is one of many things that differentiates Muslims and Non-Muslims. Islam does not restrict anyone to wear good clothes or to practice fashion. What it restricts, is not to wear such clothes that do not cover the body in a decent manner.
Today the veil, or better known as the 'hijab’ is no longer regarded as a black piece of cloth which was just used to cover the body for Muslim women across the world.
Perhaps today majority of women seem unclothed even after wearing hijab. Or we can see they are covered but at the same time uncovered, Most women by adapting sexy outfits to the hijab, try attempting to be veiled and appealing at the same time.
Muslim ladies across different nationalities and cultures have discovered a new way of wearing their veils and head scarves, through a display of colors, fabrics, shapes and styles. Islamic fashion shows have now become more widespread, in order to project the modern Muslim woman.
And in today’s ever evolving world of multimedia, young people have taken easy-to-find hijab tutorials online. Have the Muslim women forgotten the essence of hijab? Is hijab now seen simply as a fashion statement?
Nowadays, everybody wants to be attractive and eye-catching, which has given rise to a fashionable, version of hijab. Modern stylish hijabs, specially the jilbabs are tight fitting and therefore revealing the neck and parts of the body, and hence fail to fulfil the essence of what it means to be veiled.
Stylish earrings popping out of the headscarf, lot of make-up, odd combinations of colors, skin-tight clothes wrapped around the body are common among many veiled women.
The hijab or the scarf is not supposed to stand out, it is supposed to be simple and plain but now a days hijabs and scarves are layered with colorful bands, and lot of stone work on it to make it different stylish attractive and to match the latest fashion.
In fact hijab itself does not mean a specific thing, perhaps the hijab style does. Hijab is not a sign of religiosity anymore. Unfortunately it has become a fashion to copy the Khaleeji hijab style, women layering their scarves, using hair clips to create big camel hump in order to create more attraction to their looks.
Not only has the head scarf become a fashion statement for youths, but the niqaab has too, now we hardly see women in black niqaab anymore. It has all of a sudden turned into bright pinks and blues, with Smokey eye-shadows, high heels which attract unwanted attention with the noise they make and the way they make the hips sway.
Furthermore they give the illusion of greater height than what is natural. All this done just to follow or to be in fashion.
Our Prophet (pbuh) said;
“Whoever bears arms against us is not one of us and whoever cheats us is not one of us.” (Sahih Muslim p.70 v.1)
If we think positively, we all know that such stylish, colorful and so called trendy clothes, in fact, do not suit the Islamic code of dressing, but is a symbol to make oneself different from others. Islam allows fashion but within certain limits and provisions.
Those women who wear transparent or tight-fitting clothes should reflect over Prophet’s (pbuh) remark that such women are in fact uncovered, and they won't even smell the fragrance of paradise. Even if transparent and netted scarves are worn, to display hair deliberately is not allowed in Islam.
Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta`ala mentioned in the Holy Quran:
“O Prophet! Say to your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers that they let down upon them their over garments; this will be more proper, that they may be known, and thus they will not be given trouble; and Allah is Forgiving and Merciful" (Surah Al Ahzaab; verse 59).
Hence our dress must cover our body properly and decently. The design of our dress must avoid three grave sins: show off, arrogance, and self- indulgence. Also clothing should not be worn for the purpose of gaining reputation or increasing one's status in society.
Ibn 'Abbas said, "Eat what you like and wear what you like as but avoid two things: extravagance and arrogance." (Bukhari)
Islam inspires people to be proud of who they are. Muslims should look like Muslims, and not like mere imitations of people of other faiths around them.
The Quran describes:
“O children of Adam! We have bestowed upon you clothing to cover your private parts and as adornment. But the clothing of righteousness - that is best. That is from the signs of Allah that perhaps they will remember”. (Surah Al A’raf verse 26).
Clothing worn by Muslims should be clean and decent, neither excessively fancy nor ragged. One should not dress in order to increase the admiration or sympathy of others.The overall appearance of a person should be dignified and modest.
Our clothes should cover the body adequately with dignity and good looks. It should not fail to satisfy the requirements of adequate cover-up of the body. Nor should they be so ugly and awkward that instead of increasing beauty, it grades the persons appearance.
It is a personal choice to submit to Allah rather than the fashion of society. It is a choice to be beautiful in front of Allah, rather than to people. And it is a choice to cover and dignify the body Allah has blessed us with, rather than give in to a culture that shows women only to be a sex object.
However Islamic clothing is just one aspect of modesty. More significantly, one must be modest in behavior, manners, speech and appearance in public. Outfit is only one aspect of the total being, and merely reflects what is existing in individual's heart.
However, hijab should not just be seen as a cloth one puts on herself. Fairly hijab is a symbol of our worship and subjection to Deity. It is a symbol of modesty, that is not just about our attire, it lightens to our whole way and manner of life.An additional piece of cloth will not be more favorable to Allah than what is in one’s heart and mind.
Clothes should be considered a great bounty of Allah, and one should wear them properly and decently and always express thanks to the Almighty.
Thus we should wear clothes according to the Islamic code of dressing and to please Allah. It will assume a degree of Ibadah and lean to the nearness on Allah “And Only Allah gives divine guidance and He is the True Helper.”